11 Nov There Is No Such Thing As Sabotage
I know this is going to throw you for a loop, but here goes… There is no such thing as self-sabotage.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Self-sabotage is not sabotage. It’s protection. It’s a way for the brain to reaffirm your deep seated beliefs. It’s a way to stay in patterns because old is safe, new equals deadly. If you’re new to the whole core belief thing, let me explain…Our brain is always surveying our environment for cues of safety or cues of danger. This part of our brain is in charge of the automatic self-preserving behavior patterns such as your heart rate, breathing, blood sugar…basically anything to do with keeping you alive. So it is responsible for keeping us safe. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
At a basic level, it helps us identify familiar and unfamiliar things. Why? Because unfamiliar, aka new, equals death. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Have you seen the movie @thecroods? It demonstrates this perfectly. The primal brain is constantly taking a recording and categorizing it in terms of risk vs. safety. It does not like change; it likes knowing what it can survive and anything new equals risky. Risky equals unsafe. It looks to have those same experiences over and over again. This is why we have patterns. Patterns repeat themselves for a reason. To the primal brain, anything that is survivable, is worth repeating because you didn’t die the first time. You’re still alive, so let’s keep doing that exact same thing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So following up from the post the other day, let’s say we want to loose weight but we keep slipping into old eating habits; there’s a valid reason for the brain to stay in that pattern. We often get down on ourselves and ask “why do I keep self-sabotaging myself”. Instead we should thank our brain for trying to keep us safe. Then we step back to take a look at the reasons our brain thinks this pattern is the best state to be in. Only then can we move forward. We can’t white knuckle it or power through it forever. We will go back.
In what areas of your life have you been “self-sabotaging”? Can you see why your brain would want to stay in that pattern?